Dealing with anger and frustration
Have you ever been so frustrated that you felt your head might literally explode?
Jaw clenched, shoulders tight, and pressure rising as you feel like breaking something, cursing or screaming.
Some jerk cut you off in traffic and almost caused a giant accident. Your computer crashed after months of working on (and not backing up) a major project. You have tried and tried to make it work, but you just can’t figure “it” out. Perhaps you were disrespected, betrayed, misunderstood or ignored. Things were piling up, and this was the last straw, leaving you angry and frustrated.
Let’s explore where your frustration stems from and learn how to transmute it so you can receive its gifts and experience smooth sailing again.
What exactly is frustration?
Frustration is the feeling that arises when we perceive resistance to the fulfillment of our will. The greater the obstruction, and the greater the will, the greater the frustration.
Frustration is an issue that many of the powerhouse visionaries I coach deal with on an ongoing basis. For high achievers who live for accomplishment, learning to manage frustration is a must. Frustration can be internal or external. Internal frustration arises from challenges in fulfilling personal desires or needs, or when dealing with our own perceived deficiencies, such as a lack of confidence or weakness. External frustration is caused by conditions like traffic jams or waiting in a long line.
While coping with frustration, people either exhibit aggression (toward self or others) or passive–aggressive behavior, a more indirect response, which can come in the form of stubbornness, procrastination, sarcasm or resentment.
Have you ever felt the prickly energy in a room after a fight?
The biochemical effects of frustration on the body are enormous. Cortisol (stress hormone) levels rise along with our blood pressure. In a study done at Stanford, when patients were recalling incidents that made them mad, the pumping efficiency of their hearts dropped 5-10 percent!
When we feel this powerful energy moving inside us, it can feel as if it is coursing through our blood, and our face may even redden, visibly underscoring how inflamed we are.
On top of the health risks associated with inflammation, those dealing with frustration are also at risk of forming addictions. In my practice, I have found that many people struggling with alcoholism have repressed frustration and often tend to also have liver function issues. In essence, addictive behaviors, which harm us emotionally and physically (i.e., our livers), release a bit of the drive in us that seeks punishment. Have you ever heard stories about people who are “cutters?” This is one of the mechanisms at play.
Just as with disappointment, from an emotional-energetic perspective, frustration is a state that is not in harmony with that which we desire.
Blessings to all you mind training mood masters out there!
Get ready because next month is devoted to dismantling worry!
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