The dead do not stay dead long.
David Mitchell, Cloud Atlas
Reincarnation: Finding your Soul Family
In honor of the holiday weekend, Halloween and El Dia de Los Muertos, I thought we’d explore the concepts of reincarnation and soul family.
During my 15+ years in practice as a hypnotheraptist, I have witnessed the spontaneous regression of many of my clients into past lives, or if you prefer, fascinating stories that occurred to be past lives. No aspect of my practice provokes more curiosity, and strong opinion than the topic of reincarnation. I continue to be amazed by the ways that past life stories allow my clients to connect the (sometimes ironic) dots around their greatest life challenges. I’ve seen again and again, deeply held patterns and relationships being understood in an entirely new way. Understanding our past life relationships has provided many people a deeper understanding of the lessons and the destiny they are here to fulfill.
I now believe that it makes no difference whether you believe in the idea of past lives in order to gain insights from this type of exploration. Whether real or imagined, it’s all the same to the subconscious mind, which operates much like a curious, imaginative child; loving symbol, archetype and story. The topic of reincarnation and soul family may console some, may spark an ‘AHA’ for others, or just provide entertainment. It’s all perfect and I welcome your questions and comments.
Have you ever felt homesick for someone or someplace you have yet to experience?
Or felt incredibly familiar with someone you just met? Have you ever experienced an inexplicable familiarity or fascination with another culture? These encounters can provoke intense feelings and yearning for ‘more’. What if those yearnings were tied to our soul’s purpose for being here?
Souls cross ages like clouds cross skies, an’ tho’ a cloud’s shape nor hue nor size don’t stay the same, it’s still a cloud an’ so is a soul. Who can say where the cloud’s blowed from or who the soul’ll be ‘morrow?
If energy can neither be created nor destroyed, AND, if all of Life is ongoingly recycling itself in a soup of intelligence laden stardust, AND, if you consider it a possibility that our reason for existing is to seek growth and experience more facets of creation…It makes sense that this blink of a lifetime may not fill all the pages of our entire story.
Time is, in fact, a man-made construct. The nature of reality as understood by quantum physicists, ie. wormholes, parallel realities, hidden dimensions, is rather mind-boggling, and leaves much room for discovery.
There are many many things we do not yet understand (or perhaps remember) about our soul’s journey. What I’m telling you is based on the experiences of my clients, myself personally, as well as the reports from other regression experts like Brian Weiss M.D. of Many Lives Many Masters. I am not proposing that I definitively know how this all works, but i’d like to present you with a possibility.
If life was an improv performance and you were an actor in it, your soul family would be the actors that you perform with over and over in different roles.
Our lives are not our own. We are bound to others, past and present, and by each crime and every kindness, we birth our future.
On the surface it may look like a matter of chance when it comes to how we arrived in our family or friend group, but past life stories reveal a more coordinated plan.
Our soul family has layers. There is a BIG extended soul family and then there are tighter groupings with fewer and fewer members until we arrive at the core soul family that consists of just a handful of members.
It seems that core soul families work together for many lifetimes. Not all members of a soul family are alive simultaneously…some act as spirit guides for the living members and they may speak to you in dreams and meditation.
Before life journeys are undertaken, souls organize themselves into supportive groups to take on themed lessons to learn together such as emotional healing, or self-expression. If there are certain souls with whom you have had past success in achieving growth, you are likely to work with them again. If you progress through your lessons more quickly than other members of your family, you may become a leader, which in turn assists you in learning more deeply. Normally, one or two, from your biological family may be from your core soul family, but the rest will generally be from one of the extended soul family levels.
Many would agree that one of the purposes of human relationships is to learn how to love ourselves and others as we see aspects of ourselves in the mirror that others provide.
IN LAK’ ECH
‘You Are Another Myself’
Each person is drawn into our life by some invisible force. On some level, our vibration is a match. I believe each of us has a hidden language that we speak by vibrating at certain harmonics subconsciously. This language is registered by others–also subconsciously. When you encounter someone that ‘speaks the same language’ as you do, you experience a feeling of familiarity and understanding that is hard to explain rationally. It’s like a homecoming in which you feel comfortable being exactly who you are. You have found a member of your soul family.
Many would agree that the ultimate goal of life is to experience unconditional love. A big part of loving unconditionally is acceptance. One of the most painful and difficult life experiences to accept is losing someone you love. Especially when you feel there is more to experience together or losing someone with whom you were estranged. The perception that the loss was tragic or feeling that you have unfinished business can produce profound feelings of grief and pain.
At a soul level, there is no such thing as tragic. If we could only see behind the veils of this life, we could relax into understanding that we will be united with loved ones and revisit our unlearned lessons. The process of accepting a great loss takes time. If you are having trouble feeling complete, please seek healing support. You can feel better.
Honoring our Dearly Departed
El Dia de Los Muertos is a celebration in which family and friends gather to pray for and remember loved ones who have died. The origins of the holiday can be traced to pre-Columbian indigenous observances and was associated with the Aztec Goddess Mictecacihuatl.
Honor your departed soul family with a simple altar. Sugar skulls and marigolds are popular symbolic gifts for the holiday in Mexico–skulls were once commonly kept as trophies and displayed during rituals to symbolize death and rebirth. If you’re not vibing with the skulls, no worries, the favorite foods, colors, flowers or symbols of your departed loved ones work great! Remember it’s the intention that counts and the more personal, the more your subconscious mind responds.
Magnetize your Soul Family.
Meeting soul family often occurs serendipitously. It feels like a delightful surprise and is surrounded by synchronicities and magical coincidence. To prepare for your next soul family encounter, make space in your heart and mind by healing old wounds and engage conversations with those you ‘have a feeling about.
To paraphrase Joseph Campbell, Nirvana is not being compelled by desire, fear or social commitments. Know your values. Hold your center and act from there.
By becoming true to ourselves, no matter what society says, we heal ourselves and discover our resonant soul family. Surround yourself with those who support your chosen identity.
Happy holiday to all!