Overcoming sadness and disappointment
What if disappointment was simply the act of taking score too soon?
Have you ever been so disappointed that you lost your strength? Even holding your breath couldn’t halt the sudden backspin of your reality. Someone you love is really sick. Perhaps a game-changing opportunity slipped away, or you have to let go of someone or something you love. You had your heart set on a different outcome. Maybe you just felt that something was missing, and that “there’s got to be more to life than this.”
If you’ve ever had one of these experiences, this newsletter is for you. If you haven’t, tuck this away for when the time comes. It will help.
My intention with this article is to help you understand where your disappointment stems from and how to consciously move out of the energy of disappointment in order to liberate yourself and get back into alignment with your higher self and your deepest, most soul-simmering desires.
So what exactly is disappointment?
Disappointment is the feeling of dissatisfaction that follows the failure of expectations or hopes to manifest. It is one of two primary emotions involved in decision-making, and has also been hypothesized as a source of immune system suppression in optimists. *
From an emotional-energetic perspective, disappointment is a state that is not in harmony with that which we desire.
If you want someone or something to be different, or want something to happen and it doesn’t, then you are a prime candidate for the emotional lesson disappointment carries.
Emotional expert Karla McClaren speaks about disappointment as being a “soft” type of sadness, the intention of which is to make room for the new and release what isn’t working. She proposes these questions as a pathway to understanding:
– What must be released?
– What must be rejuvenated?
– What is the opportunity of the moment?
Disappointment originates from limiting beliefs around failure and worthiness, and is 100% correlated to our perspective and our expectations. Judgment and Attachment are the main ingredients of disappointment. Have you ever felt the weight of someone’s disappointment in you? It’s quite a heavy energy.
When we judge something as less than desirable and unworthy of our acceptance, we box that thing in with our thoughts to help us maintain the illusion of our control over it. We become imprisoned with our own thoughts, and as we fight what is unfolding, we tie ourselves up even further. More judgment means more disappointment, which makes for a tinier prison. On the contrary, as we release, forgive and “take nothing personal,” ease sets in, we feel spacious and doors begin to open again.